Top reasons we sabotage first dates or a relationship
1.
Fear
We want someone in our life but we also do
not wish to be hurt, scammed, or dumped so we are in the wrong frame of mind from
the first moment we meet someone in person therefore we don’t get past the first date.
We judge the next possible life partner by
previous partners who didn’t work out, whether their fault or our own. Those
who can’t forget their past failed relationships for the right reason unconsciously set the first
date up for failure with someone new.
We
are afraid we may have to give up some or all of our independence. This is
especially true for women.
We
aren’t willing to give up any possibly offensive (to others) habit(s), like smoking tobacco, we have formed while single or over our
lifetime even if it means losing or missing out on our true soul mate.
Some
of us are just not willing to share our ‘stuff’ or maybe anything else we
consider our ‘own’ property or personal space. ANY relationship is about 'sharing' even if it's just a roommate or co-driver situation.
Some
people today live by the rule, “What’s yours is yours and what’s mine is mine”.
Others hold to “What’s yours is mine and what’s mine is mine”. So many of us
are tight fisted with our money and then there are those who are too liberal. An
otherwise perfectly matched union can be separated off and on or permanently due to money issues.
(Borrowed comment)
By recognizing the cycle of destruction in sabotaging relationships, we can identify the problem, rather than the symptom, and begin to move forward. It is possible to have a healthy, happy relationship.
By recognizing the cycle of destruction in sabotaging relationships, we can identify the problem, rather than the symptom, and begin to move forward. It is possible to have a healthy, happy relationship.
(My conclusion)
Compromise is not
an easy task for some people but if we are not willing to compromise, we are
likely going to either live alone forever or have failed relationships, one
after the other. Some people end up getting a pet and stop trying to have a
human relationship. And there are people who simply love themselves so much they
have decided to remain single. It is possible for each of us to have a true "soul mate" relationship while retaining and holding onto our own identity, self respect and space.
Blog Post by:
Marge Bailey/Admin
Creator/Owner of www.TruckerCupidPlus.com
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